Why everyone trusts Oprah. How Jay-Z got Beyonce. Why the Yankees and Lakers always win. How I won Miss Liberia USA.

After hanging out with my 14 year old last night, I asked her what girls her age want to read about. Naturally I assumed the stereotypical surface things such as dating, how to dress, entertainment, etc. But she gave me a simple honest answer that I will never forget and already knew: confidence. It’s the sole characteristic that works in any industry in business or any aspect in life. In fact you need it, if your plan is to succeed drastically.

I’m actually in the process of reading a book called Confidence by Rosabeth Moss Kanter, a Harvard Business School professor. It’s a fascinating read. Everyone from sports teams to corporations and public figures are studied. Those who have had consistent confidence and a positive outlook on their vision have succeeded throughout the years. Those who haven’t don’t.

Here are 5 things that hand in hand will contribute to your confidence – and success.

You’ve got to speak things into existence. Whether you’re trying to start your own business, get a promotion at work or buy your first home – SAY IT ALOUD. In the morning, when you get up say it to yourself in the mirror. It. Works. I mean it’s a basic concept we learned when we were little…”I think I can, I think I can, I think I can…”

This one is pretty simple. Name me one SUCCESSFUL who has a negative outlook on their vision or their life. You can’t. Because they don’t exist. You have to believe that what you want to do and accomplish is great. Optimism is key in confidence. You can’t have one without the other. They say success is 1% execution and 99% attitude. It’s true.

Confidence can’t be faked. It has to be genuine and once again believed not only by everybody else but by YOU. Truly believing in yourself – in your dream – in your plan – makes it so much easier for others to believe in it as well. Because it’s real.

Sure, you may not rise to the occasion everyday but you have to have the attitude that you may. You have to believe (yes, again) in what you’re trying to accomplish as well as yourself every single day. It’s human to have doubts, but never let it be known nor seen. You think if the Lakers believed in themselves one season and not the next five they would have all those rings? Of course, not. Sure, they don’t win every year. But they go in every season believing they will.

Two words. Vision Board. When you actually visualize yourself doing something there’s a more than likely chance that you will do it. You have to envision it over and over and OVER again. That’s what makes the vision board so powerful. You get to look at a board with all of your goals on it all year so you actually achieve them. If you believe you can do something, then you can actually see yourself doing it.

As you noticed, with everything I listed I think I used the word believe in every description. If you conceive it and BELIEVE it then you will achieve it. Take these 5 things with a large dose of belief, practice and apply them daily and your confidence will soar.

2 Responses to Confidence

  1. UGAboi

    So, so true. Except about the part about self-doubt. I think its important to admit doubt. I feel like if you don’t, then you’ll never fully get rid of it. Instead, the doubt will just sit there and come back at the worst moment…but thats just me.

  2. Enoyed going through your website. Great reads. Good Luck on your future endeavors. I manage Kade Merab, a Liberian such as yourself, a model n actress.

    We may be able to work together in the near future. Would love for you to speak to our young women in church, about knowing your self worth & exhuming confidence at all times.

    God Bless,

    Yuade Merab Moore

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