That’s me and Hubs at Mississippi State University when I spoke there earlier this year. I have to say I’m really blessed. I’m a blogger who married a graphic artist. I’ve gotten many questions about my blog layout and sometimes I feel guilty for being like, “Oh yeah, my husband did it.” He doesn’t freelance anymore so it’s hard not to recommend him to others. (But my sister does, so it ends up working out.)
Aside from graphic design, my husband really has had much to do with the creative process and growth of my blog. Especially within the last two years, which – if you ask me – has been the most successful since I started my blog. I’d love to make the next few sentences about how perfect and easy it’s been working with my spouse, but that just isn’t the case.
To be honest, I was a lot of the problem. Hubs and I are very different: he’s very calculated, I’m very…not. He likes to plan, I like to go with the feeling. He likes to list out the pros, cons and whys of a new idea, I want to immediately bring it to fruition. On the contrary, we are very much alike in aesthetic, taste and standard, but I let our differences get the best of me. Which a lot of times made for an unproductive us.
When I started Mattieologie, my husband was very clear on what he thought it should be: “Just celebrate being yourself.” I thought that was a good idea, but I should do outfit posts and started blogging groups (which I suck at) and throw conferences (which I also suck at) and do way too much. I would compare myself to my favorite bloggers and online personalities and go after their goals. I wanted to fluff up myself, while Hubs knew the whole time that being myself without the fluff and sharing it through original content presented beautifully was enough. When he shared that he didn’t necessarily understand what the point of all these other ideas were or asked why I couldn’t just share them on Mattieologie (versus four other sites), I’d retaliate to prove him wrong. Which made me recently ask myself: why would you fight someone who’s on your side?
I’ve had interns, assistants, etc. – both good and bad – but I have to say that bringing myself to fully work with Hubs willingly and learning not to take what he had to say about my blog personally has done way more good than any other person that’s worked for me. From making sure business taxes get done to ensuring that business cards are cut perfectly, he’s not only willing to put in work for Mattieologie but excited to do it. And that energy transfers onto some of the awesome things you’ve seen here on the blog.
Now that I’ve stopped fighting him, we have really gotten to sit down – as partners – and draw out a clear map of what we want Mattieologie to be. Because of the many amazing opportunities, we understand that at almost 5 years of existing that it doesn’t just stop at the blog and could truly create a livelihood for our family. Good additions and changes are coming not only on the blog but in our life and we’re excited to share. I do truly believe in my motto, “Live What You Love” and I love my husband, so I’ve decided to make a living with him…through my blog.
I can’t speak for anyone but myself and this is all coming from my personal experience. But if you’re lucky enough to have a partner – like I do – who is excited about your dream, your blog, your life just as much as you are, don’t fight it. Embrace it and you’ll see the wonderful places it’ll take the both of you.