It happens to all of us. We go through that relationship that consumes us to the max. We think about what it would be like if it never broke off and sometimes why it even broke off in the first place because when we think about it, all we can remember is the good times. Your friends say it ended for the better and you think it changed your forever. Everyone says you shouldn’t talk to them but in the end you crack and you do. Over and over again. No matter how many times you tell yourself you won’t, you always fall back for that one person.

When it comes to that one ex, how is it that we always go through a revolving door?

I know for a fact that I’m not the only one who has been in this predicament. I’m sure at one point it’s something that we all go through. I think it’s because of an emotional attachment that we just can’t seem to shake – whether it’s because we have a child with the person or went through a traumatic experience that “connected” us. Regardless, sometimes we have to let go. If it’s meant to be, they’ll come back and then you know they’re yours, right?

I said that the revolving door may exist because of emotional attachment but of course we all know that it’s really easy to still be physically involved with an ex. Especially for the girls, we’re a little more emotional so when we involve ourselves physically, it’s much harder to let go. It’s amazing how hard it is to get away from something that was once so comfortable.

Eventually though it starts to wear you down because it isn’t what it was anymore and maybe you, or the ex, move on to a new relationship with someone else. It’s hard because at that point you finally have to let go or you can choose to let your new relationship deteriorate from the baggage of the one you can’t let go. Naturally, it’s easy to go through that revolving door once or twice but don’t let it rule your world and drag out continuously. Take it from my mother who says that exes don’t even deserve a second chance because if they wanted it to work, it would have worked the first time. It’s not fair to you or the person you are with now. Instead it just creates unnecessary drama that can be easily avoided.

When you actually find the real thing and it’s compared to your “door” you realize that it was all a facade. The door is much more surface than it seems and it’s one of those things that actually has no depth. It’s something that you try your hardest to turn into something when it’s actually nothing.

So don’t get caught up in the nonsense. Because a revolving door really has no beginning or no end which means, it leads to…no where.

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