A friend of mine was frustrated with herself for dishing about a break up and even wanting to speak to her ex because there were so many instances where she could have spoken to him. Whether it was to check up on him and make sure all was well, but deep down she knew talking to him was a bad idea after how it ended. She expressed to me as hard as it had been, this was truly a test from God and she felt silly even coming to me for help/advice during the whole thing.

My response (via text msg):

“Doing the right thing is always hard. Especially in a break up. I’ve come to you for soooooo many things before…that’s what friends are for. The devil is truly busy with all these recent acts, but it’s up to you with the help of God to keep progressing. These things are trying their hardest to make you REGRESS. But so far, I’m happy to say, it hasn’t worked.”

A lot of times we don’t give ourselves enough credit. Getting through a break up with or without the help of anybody is tough. (Friends don’t necessarily make it easier, but hopefully they help you laugh along the way.) You must go through the past to get to the present to be ready for the future. It’s like a little piece of you is forever left in that past relationship. But it’s up to you – and only you – to come into your new self. The new self that knows better because they went through that past relationship.

And break up.